I miss her!

[Wendy2]

I am new to this site. I am in so much pain! I am sitting here crying as I write this. My name is Wendy and I have a son, husband and a dog. I lost my Missy girl on Friday December 19th, 2008.

Missy (who is my picture) was very sick. It came on all of a sudden for me even though she was 14 years old. I woke up in the middle of the night to check on her like I always do and I found her on her pillow in my son's room and she had peed and poo on herself. My heart sank because I knew right then what was going to happen the next day. My husband gave her a bath and I cleaned everything up. I go her a new pillow and blanket and laid on the floor with her. The next morning I called the vet and got her in. She had lost 10 pounds in a matter of a few months and they did blood work to see what was going on.

When the vet came back in with her results...I lost it! They told us that everything was shutting down and the best thing for her was to let her go.

I have never navagatied anything like this before and all I do is sit and cry and stare at her stuff and pictures. I know everybody has a different way of dealing with this but I feel like I have lost a child and I find it hard to breathe everyday.

My other dog Max is having a hard time also. He is so sad! He walks around looking for her and cry's. He is barely eating and he and I both don't like going home at night because we know she isn't there. When will this get better???

[cockermom93]

I am truely sorry for your loss! It sounds like she was a very sweet and wonderful soul. I hate to say it but it doesn't really get better... you will always miss her and you will always feel pain, the only thing that changes is that you start to think of it less and less as time goes by. I hope you can try to remember the good and not focus on the bad. My heart is with you and will be thinking of you this christmas. :(

Welcome to k9mania by the way.

[Furbilator]

Almost all of the K9Mania posters have gone through the loss of a beloved furry family member and we each grieved differently for sure. I still tear up (even now) remembering my childhood and early adulthood dogs. You never really stop missing their sweetness but all I can say is you do remember the happiness and joy they brought to your life a lot more after the grief and sense of loss has waned a bit.

All our sympathies to you on your loss.

Furbs and Cassie

[Wendy2]

Thank You!

[elsasmom]

When I read a post like this, all the previous losses return. Though I still miss my dear sweet Moses, I smile more than cry when I think of him now. The happy memories of a lifetime with him (13 years)begin to outweigh those horrible last days. Time seems to help erase the worst and enlarge the best memories.
You're in a good place in this forum because we all love our dogs like they are children.
My condolences to you and your family.

[turfgirl]

Having gone through this twice in one year I truly understand how you feel as we all do at K9. I am so sorry for your loss. I found comfort in both my babies things. I kept them close for weeks. I know it is hard to beleive but the pain will diminish, it will not go away as things will remind you every so often but take heart in knowing that you gave her a long wonderful loving life and she is now playing at Rainbow Bridge with all of our buddies. I now have a new baby Lexcee and somehow having her makes it easier. Give your other baby all the hugs and kisses and make sure he knows he is loved as I am sure you will do. He is bound to miss her as much as you and will need that comfort from you and you from him. Take care and I am so sorry for your loss. If you need to chat just pm me anytime. We all are with you. Hugs and kisses for you all Susan & Lexcee

[Jr_K9_Expert]

I'm really sorry too. Although I haven't lost a dog and can't say that I know exactly what you are going through, I do know it must be really hard. Only time can heal wounds like these, its ok to mourn don't be ashamed but don't dwell on things either. Remember all the good times, I'm sure your pup wouldn't want you to be sad, don't look at what you've lost, but through her, look at all the wonderful things you've gained like memories and fun times. Hope that helps. My condolences to you, hope things get better.

[BetterDog4U]

Hi Wendy2 ... I so sorry to hear that you lost Missy. It's been a year and a half since I had to say good bye to Chip.

As I read your post, it all came back. I lost him the same way.

Please trust me ... it will get better! The pain will go in time. While sorrow and crying is an important way to release your pain, try to spend your time remembering the GOOD times. Maybe spend a little more time with the hubbie and Max. THey need you now too.

I wish you peace in your time of sorrow!

[Momto3]

Understand what you're going thru for sure. I had to let my heart-dog go 12/29/07 so we're coming up on the anniversary of his passing. He too was shutting down but he stayed for Christmas with me. I still cannot bring myself to let his ashes go on...can't do it. As time goes by it's supposed to get easier but I really haven't found that with my Maxwell. Hurts less maybe but most any mention of him and I have to fight tears.

Take your time, extra loving on the survivors...my sincere condolences to you.

[Wendy2]

Thank you all for your kind words. It has really been a tough week for me. I am not crying as much. I had to put all the Christmas stuff on Christmas day because it all reminded me of what had happend the last few days. Now that I am back to work and business as usually, I dont crash to the floor and cry for her. I started a journal and I think they has helped. I recommend it!

Thank you all again for such support!
Wendy

[turfgirl]

You are so welcome, most of us have gone through this at one time or another and it is really hard, but it does get easier to handle. I will say this, don't block your memories enjoy them. Good luck and hugs from Susan & Lexcee

[hcromley]

im so sorry for your loss, i know its hard and no matter how much time goes by it will still hurt but when u think of the great times and not the bad times at the end its better just try and remember all the joy your little one brought to u and remember u still have your other baby to b thankfull for

[Lola_Joy]

Wendy, some point in our lives we will all have to say goodbye. Some will deal harder than others. Maybe, you can make a memorial for your beloved companion. Like, BetterDog4U, I know he has a memorial in his backyard for his dalmation Chip, he has pictures that you could go off, I'm sure he wouldn't mind. You can also make a shadow box of all stuff Missy, photos, what she liked, her collar, and hang it up on the wall. Think of all the good times with her. Try not to focus on the fact that she is gone.During the years you spent with Missy she became a significant and constant part of your life. She was a source of comfort and companionship, of unconditional love and acceptance, of fun and joy. So don't be surprised if you feel devastated by the loss of such a relationship for many years.Locking away grief doesn't make it go away. Express it. Cry, scream, pound the floor, talk it out. Do what helps you the most. Don't try to avoid grief by not thinking about Missy, instead, reminisce about the good times. This will help you understand what Missy's loss actually means to you.

Some find it helpful to express their feelings and memories in poems, stories, or letters to the pet.
Just thought I'd help! Goodluck!

[Wendy2]

Thank you! The Shadow box is a great idea. I have been working on a memorial but I want to set it up when we have a more permanent residents. We are between houses right now and I don’t want to set it up where we are renting since I know I will be leaving soon. I love the shadow box idea because I can start that now.

Thank you again,
Wendy

[Lola_Joy]

Thank you! The Shadow box is a great idea. I have been working on a memorial but I want to set it up when we have a more permanent residents. We are between houses right now and I don’t want to set it up where we are renting since I know I will be leaving soon. I love the shadow box idea because I can start that now.

Thank you again,
Wendy

Always like to help. Sorry for your loss Wendy! :(

[dogforever]

Tha is really bad news.I am very soory for that.she was nice to looking.

[Meghanxx4]

I am so sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is to lose companian like that. The same thing happened to with my lab last february, only not quite as sudden. It had been going down hill for the past week. It's never an easy thing to.I think they know when it's their time and they just stop fighting, they go down so fast. You will never forget her, but it will get easier. I don't go by one day without thinking of my girl. We're always here.

[CerbiesMom]

i'm so sorry for your loss, but I'm glad the journal helps. Plus, you've always got us as shoulders to cry on. I still miss my last dog, and she went 7 years ago. It's always hard to lose a pet. I hope things turn around for you this year.

[dogforever]

Its a really heartbreaking news.I am very sorry too heard that.